My relationship started perfectly: a tumultuous workplace romance with secret encounters. We applied for marriage at the registrar’s office six months later. Then he quit his job and showed no interest in looking for another. I went to work as a packer. The working conditions were difficult, but the remuneration was adequate. I made the decision that I needed to hang on while my ex-husband looked for me. 

Even though he began an active nightlife, I also supported him financially. I noticed a sleeping figure on the couch as I returned home from work. There was only enough money to buy food. I restricted myself to only shopping and going out. My parents assisted us in purchasing an apartment, and I imagined that the two of us would now renovate in our dreams. That was not the case! All we did was move into a new apartment. 

Then I took drastic actions, including quitting my work. My ex-husband refused to change his views, and he began going to bars at night and returning home in the morning. I was also responsible for all of the household chores. He appeared to be anticipating our separation.

It was difficult at first. I didn’t find work immediately away, but I persevered through all of the challenges. Then I discovered my two lifelong passions: teaching and art restoration. I changed my hairstyle and outfit. 

My social circle has grown over time. The apartment’s design was created entirely by me, and I’ll soon have the comfiest house. Postgraduate study and extensive travel, particularly worldwide, are among the ambitions. What about the ex-boyfriend? He works as a bartender and takes expensive gifts from his new lover with open arms.

Everything Is A Lesson When Pain Is The Teacher

Divorce is painful, yet everything that happens to us in life seems like a lesson when pain serves as the teacher. Perhaps you were overly trusting or preoccupied with your profession. Perhaps you put his or your children’s happiness ahead of your own. Maybe you didn’t do anything wrong and this just happened to you.

There are still great life lessons to be learned, regardless of the reasons for the divorce. Yes, those lessons can be quite difficult, yet they may be just what your soul requires. You also realize that just because your life isn’t going as planned doesn’t mean it isn’t the right one for you. 

It may not be exactly what you wanted, but it’s what you have, and that can be freeing because you understand that life doesn’t always go as planned, and that’s okay. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t obtain the job you truly wanted. 

It’s not a big deal if you don’t get that promotion you wanted. That is simply a fact of life. You may not always receive what you want, but you must constantly try to make the best of what you have, which can be a liberating and empowering skill to master.

You Lose Yourself To Find Yourself

Divorce is a painful experience. It’s as if I’ve died. The grieving process might take a long time, and no one should tell you how long you should be in grief. After your divorce, you lose yourself. You lose your sense of knowing, your self-esteem, your sense of security, your confidence, and possibly even your friends and home. You completely forget yourself, but you gradually resurface.

You eventually understand that it was your marriage, not your divorce, that caused you to lose yourself. You realize that you have lost your identity because of your marriage. You realize you’ve lost your sense of self. Divorce helps you to rediscover yourself, the person you used to be, and it’s a lovely sensation to be “you” again.

Your Appearance Improves

Admit it, when it comes to our appearance, we all fall asleep in marriage. We all become a little sluggish and out of shape. Perhaps we don’t take care of ourselves as well as we did before we married. That seemed like a plus point during the marriage, but now that you’re divorced, there’s no reason.

Final Words

Divorce is a life-changing and painful experience that should be chosen only after all other options for a successful marriage have faded. I believe that all marriages, except those involving violence or chronic infidelity, may be saved, and I would advise anyone considering divorce to seek treatment from a skilled specialist.